Endings & New Beginnings

This weekend my son, Tristan, graduated from the Santa Rosa Junior College. He will be transferring to UC Davis and majoring in Economics in the fall. This time is oh so bittersweet. While so proud and happy for my son, I wasn't prepared for the sadness that I would feel. These milestones in a fleeting life are a big deal. From the current experience, opportunity arises spontaneously to reflect on one’s life. The joys, the sorrows, the struggles and the triumphs. And the fact that these beautiful souls that you’ve nourished and raised are going away. They don’t need you in the same way. They’ve even grown beyond you and most likely they have a wisdom far beyond your own wisdom. I know that I see that in my kids. I'm often in awe of them.

I recently heard a meditation teacher say, “The goal of a Master is to create more Masters, not more students.” 

In the same way, we do our best to raise up our children so that they can go out into the world, thrive in their lives, and contribute to society in a meaningful way. We hope and pray that we’ve given all that we could so that they may have a deep connection to the truth and light inside of themselves and that connection inside will help them to weather any storm that may come. 

In this season of graduations, endings and new beginnings, I offer these words from Buddha, to my son, to graduates, and to all of us.

“Be a light unto yourself.
Hold fast to the truth.
Look not for refuge to anyone but yourself.
The light and truth is inside of you.”